A Lesson from Twitter – How to Get Others Interested in You

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Research shows that the most popular tweeters are those who rarely speak about themselves. In a study undertaken by Dan Zarrella, a social media analyst, and consultant based in Boston, he found that the most self-referential Twitter users tended to have the fewest followers. Conversely, people who used more inclusive language tended to have more followers. His research has led him to believe online social networking only comes naturally to those who are truly social in real life.

How do you get others interested in you? The answer is really simple. Take the reverse approach. You only need to ask yourself, “How do I get interested in others?”


1. Pay attention to the other person: Find out more about the family members and their interests, hobbies, and their way of life. The more you know the more you can talk about things that are of interest to them,

2. Get in touch: Call up your friend and find out how he or she is doing. Send a short email and include a motivating quote to cheer up the other person. Visit your friend and take along a small gift.

3. Praise and compliment: When you see the house is clean and tidy praise her for doing an excellent housekeeping job. Compliment her child for getting good grades in school.

4. Offer help: Because you know a lot about the other person, find out his or her needs, and see how you can help. People usually do not ask for help as they are fear rejection. Your proactive action will be much appreciated.

5. The gesture of goodwill: When your wife bakes a cake, share with your neighbor. When you are at the supermarket perhaps you would like to buy an extra comb of bananas for your friend.

6. Be friendly: Talk to people you meet, make it very casual and be polite. People are happy to be acknowledged.

7. Constructive criticism: Friendship is about care and concern. Talk to your friend in a diplomatic way when you see a situation that needs to be rectified or improved.


The more you are interested in other people the more they will notice it and in turn, they will pay attention to you as well.