How to be Sincere and Straightforward

“Hold faithfulness and sincerity as first principles.” - Confucius

According to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, sincere means saying only what you really think or feel, while straightforward means honest and open; not trying to deceive somebody or hide something.

How do you tell your girlfriend that her dress is not appropriate for her? Are you going to be sincere and straightforward? More likely than not, if you do, you will not hear from her again or she will not talk to you for a few days. People like to be flattered and hear positive things.

How do you apply sincerity and straightforwardness?

At Home: They are the people close to you, especially your children. There is no need to beat around the bush. Tell it like it is. When you know it is harmful to place your smartphone next to you while sleeping, talk to your children that mobile phones use electromagnetic radiation in the microwave range. Explain the risks involved and the best way to deal with them.

Among friends: If he or she is your close buddy, they will listen to you without feeling being irritated or annoyed. They know your intention is good for them. For casual acquaintances, there is no need to comment. If requested you still can be honest and diplomatic about it. Like the case of the dress mentioned above. You can suggest a different color or a different style bring out her best without directly telling her that the dress does not suit her.  

At work: In the office honesty is the best policy. You are working in the best interest of the company. When you have a better idea you are to put forwards your recommendation and your reasoning. Others may be jealous because their plan is not good enough; but it is their negative thinking. There is no need to win their consent when you know what you do is right. 

When you are sincere and straightforward, it is from your heart. You behave the same in front of others or alone. When you do something you know it is the right thing to do and there is no ulterior motive.  Your response is genuine and spontaneous.

 Conclusion: It is a virtue to be sincere and straightforward. However, it depends on the person you are talking to. When you know you can be candid about it be sincere and straightforward. Otherwise, you still can deliver your message in a subtle way and not offend the other party. 

Sincerity is strength and the very foundation of character. Sincere people are passionate, driven & positive. They not only aim high for themselves but they also lift others.