10 Reasons Why You Are Not Happy

We create our own unhappiness. The purpose of suffering is to help us understand we are the ones who cause it. - Willie Nelson

Unhappiness is about negativity. Instead of looking at the bright side of things your outlook is gloom and doom, you respond to things with a negative mindset. Here are the ten sins of your unhappiness:

1.     Focus on your regrets and fears: You can’t undo your wrongdoings in the past and your fears about the future are not happening now and may not happen at all. Treasure the present moment, it is the only time you can do your best to create a better future with the bitter lessons you have learnt from the past. Focus on doing what is important in your life and celebrate at the end of each day what you have achieved for the day.  

        

2.     Negative thoughts: When your thinking is negative, quickly switch your thoughts with a positive perspective. Views problems as challenges and setbacks as training to boost your resilience. Positive thoughts motivate you and provide the energy for you to take action.     

3.     Purposeless living: You do not like your job but you do not know what you want in life. Find out what inspires and interests you. Identify your hobbies. Your purpose in life is what you can do to make you proud and happy.

“I'm not unhappy," he said. "Only people with no purpose are unhappy. I've got a purpose.” -  Cassandra Clare, City of Bones

4.     Unhealthy lifestyle: Bad habits like smoking, drinking, getting up late, procrastinating, eating junk food, and sitting all day watching TV are a drain of your energy. Get outdoors, move your body, breathe in the fresh air and bathe under the sun. You will be more alert, energetic, and feel good about yourself.        

5.     Negative energy: Complaining, getting angry, and holding grudges do more harm to yourself than to others. Be kind to yourself and to others. Forgive and adopt an attitude of gratitude. Peace of mind promotes happiness.

6.     Compare yourself and your life to others: The only thing you get out of comparison with others are jealousy and discontentment.  Improve yourself and get better with each passing day. In this way you will feel more confident and happy about your own progress in life.

7.     Living beyond your means: It is like trying to follow the lifestyle of others and get into debt. It brings misery and anxiety. Live the way your financial resources allow you. Happiness is debt-free. 

8.     Low self-esteem: Do not just look at your weaknesses only and ignore your strengths. We are all not perfect; we make the best use of what we have and do what we can do. Love yourself and put your best foot forward.  Be cheerful and greet the world with a broad smile every day. Research shows that the more you acknowledge your past successes, the more confident you’ll become in taking on new challenges. 

9.           Not reaching out: Unhappiness is about loneliness and isolation. 

     Find people who are cheerful and get along with them. 

     They will lift your spirits up.

     According to an article, Is modern life making us lonely, 

     loneliness not only makes 

     us unhappy, but it is bad for us.  

     It can lead to a lack of   confidence and mental 

     health problems   like depression, stress and anxiety.

10.     Negative influences: Reading newspapers and watching TV only disturb your mind and zap your energy because sensational news like violence and crime dominate the mass media. Read more motivational books and articles to fortify your positive outlook in life.

Conclusion

You are responsible for your own life. You are in control. When you decide to be happy nobody can stop you.  You can make positive changes and get positive results. Think happy and be happy.

I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition - Martha Washington