“Worry never robs
tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” - Leo Buscaglia
Before I talk about
the 10 things not to worry about, read this story first:
The Carpenter I
hired to help me restore an old farmhouse had just finished a rough first day
on the job. A flat tire made him lose an hour of work, his electric saw quit,
and now his ancient pickup truck refused to start. While I drove him home, he
sat in stony silence.
On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. When opening the door, he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.
Afterward, he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.
"Oh, that's my trouble tree", he replied. "I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing for sure, troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning, I pick them up again."
"Funny thing is", he smiled, "when I come out in the morning to pick 'em up, there ain't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before."
On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. When opening the door, he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.
Afterward, he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.
"Oh, that's my trouble tree", he replied. "I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing for sure, troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning, I pick them up again."
"Funny thing is", he smiled, "when I come out in the morning to pick 'em up, there ain't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before."
Author unknown
In most cases, taking action is the only way to combat your
worries. Find out what you can do about your anxieties.
1.
Jobless: Instead of worrying about getting
retrenched, do the best you can to keep your job. Learn new skills, do things
beyond your job scope, ask for new assignments, stay cheerful and act
confidently.
2.
Failures: Failures are not bad things, it means
you have tried. You just need to be smart and do it differently.
3.
What others think of you: What others think of
you is none of your business. Besides what you think others are thinking about
you is only in your own mind. Live the way you are, be free and be contented.
4.
Aging: I am a baby boomer, but it does not worry
me a bit. I just keep doing the right things such as jogging regularly, eating healthily and staying
cheerful and happy. I am concerned about my retirement fund so I continue to
work and earn more. I wake early in the morning because there is something to
do every day and I enjoy doing it.
5.
Death: Death is inevitable. The best thing you
can do is to live life fully. Spend time with love ones and say the words you
want to say, meet up with those you wish you had time to see them and do the things
that make you happy. When the day finally arrives you have no regret.
6.
The future: Nobody knows what is going to
happen, but you can always envisage the future, live the future now. Imagine
the future is now and live the life of your choice.
7.
Bad things to happen: Negative thoughts mean
thinking of what can go wrong. It is not a bad idea if you look at it
constructively. As an example when you are driving out of town you are thinking
of accidents on the road. It reminds you to drive with care and without
speeding.
8.
Things beyond your control: It is not a fair
world, the rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer. Innocent
people are killed in conflicts every day. Just pray.
9.
Your work: Instead of worrying about too much
work to do, spend time to organize your workload and focus on doing one task at
a time and complete the most important
ones.
10. Outcome:
You have an end result in mind but you have to concentrate on the processes and
techniques to attain the expected outcome. Live in the present and enjoy the
process and be happy. You are more likely to achieve your aim without an attachment
to the results.
Nothing diminishes
anxiety faster than action. -Walter Anderson
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