Be Yourself and Be Happy – 11 Positive Tips

Best Self

Do not think negatively about your self-image. Just be yourself and be happy. Here are some ways to be what you are and have fun and enjoy yourself: 

 1. When you wake up: Tell yourself that it is going to be a wonderful day and you are going to have a great time and be happy throughout the whole day. 

 2. Smile: Smile at the people you meet. You will be greeted with a broad smile in return. You will feel good. If someone does not smile at you, pity him that he has not learnt the art of smiling at others. 

 3. Be confident: Don’t discount your true value. Have faith in yourself. Act and feel confident. Believe you can and just do it.

 4. Join in the fun: Mix around, loosen yourself, and join in the fun and have a good time. 

 5. Be able to laugh at yourself: Don’t take yourself seriously. When you make a mistake and people laugh at you, you laugh at yourself too. 

 6. Be good to other people: Help others. The fact that you can lend a hand to others shows your worth in this world. 

 7. Think of your achievements: Be proud of yourself. Think of the things that you are good at. And you will feel good about yourself. As an example, I feel great when I think of my blog because my Traffic Rank has been going up and up. It’s a feat for me. 

 8. Appreciate yourself: Accept your strengths and weaknesses. We all have our good points and bad points. Nobody is perfect, why worry about your shortcomings? 

 9. Exercise regularly: When you are physically active every day, you will stay calm. You will be able to concentrate and think positively. You are in control. 

 10. Never stop learning: Always update yourself with the latest information. Learn new things, acquire new knowledge. The more you know the more confident you will be.

 11. Act naturally: Don’t bother about what others think about you. Feel, act, behave, and think the way you normally do. Be relaxed and express yourself freely. 

 According to Denis Waitley,” It’s not what you are that holds you back. It’s what you think you are not.” 

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Create, Establish, Maintain and Manage Your Brand

Brand

There are 4 stages to develop your brand in the blogosphere. Here are the steps you should take:

Create your brand

What are your interest and passion? What are the things that you can do better than others?

What are the things that you always do without being asked to do? Answer these questions to discover and create your niche. As an example, my niche is self-improvement. I enjoy writing articles on topics relating to personal development.

Establish your brand

When you have identified your niche, the next thing to do is to establish your brand.

The best thing to do is to start a blog. Write and post articles about your interests. The subjects that you know better than others and you find it meaningful. Next, you create your profile at Google Profiles. You also add your profile at Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and Plaxo. Be sure that your profile is consistent with your niche.

Maintain your brand

You should always update your profile on LinkedIn and other social media sites. However, the most important thing is to write and post articles about your niche on a regular basis. Consistency in posting your articles will boost the confidence of the readers in you.

Manage your brand

You should monitor your brand in the blogosphere by signing up with Google Alerts to protect your brand and your name. You will be notified, as instructed by you, say, on a daily basis, if your blog or your name is mentioned on the Internet. This is very important if someone has smeared your name you can quickly react by asking the site to stop it. On the other hand, if there are favorable comments about your brand you should also acknowledge immediately. As an example, at any time when my name 'Charles Chua C K' or my blog 'All About Living With Life' is mentioned on the Internet, I will be informed by Google. You can also do a search on Twitter to find out what others talk about you and your brand from time to time.

The most essential thing to build your brand is consistency. Writing and posting articles relating to your niche according to your posting rhythm will make your brand trusted by more and more people over time.

13 Memory Tips

Memory

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There are many ways to help you to remember and here are just some of them: 

 1. Use all your five senses: Use all your senses to study an object and you will be able to remember better. As an example you look at an apple, you smell the freshness of it, you feel it in your hand, and you taste it and hear the crispy sound when you bite into it. 

 2. Undivided attention: The first impression is the real key to memory. The first time you learn something new observe and concentrate fully. Your 100% attention means you will remember it later deeply and clearly 

 3. Repetition: It is boring to repeat something over and over again but it is one sure way to remember it. 

4. When you are interested: It’s easy to remember something when you are interested. You pay full attention to it and you remember distinctly. 

 5. Understand: When you don’t understand you don't remember. Make sure you are able to comprehend the issue so that you can remember well.

 6. Sufficient sleep: When you sleep, you allow your brain to store the things that you have just learnt. 

7. Drink enough water: Dehydration disrupts your normal thinking and remembering process.

 8. No smoking and drinking: Too much drinking will damage your short term memory. Smoking will reduce the level of oxygen in the brain 

 9. Be relaxed when you are learning: Your mind is more receptive to new ideas when you are at ease. You don't remember well when you are under stress. 

 10. Say it and write it down: To remember a person's name, listen to the pronunciation carefully, write it down, and say the name and repeat it often in the course of conversation. Study the person‘s face, his expression, and his mannerisms so that you can relate his features to his name. 

 11. Link with old memory: Associate with what you know when you learn new things so that it can be linked and remembered easily 

 12. Rehearse: For long-term memory, it is better to go over the material at regular intervals. It will reinforce what you have learned before. 

 13. Remember lists: Using 10 different locations of your room to remember 10 items: 1. The door 2. The corner on the right 3. The next wall 4. The next corner 5. The wall facing the door 6. The next corner 7. The next wall 8. The corner on the left side of your room 9. The ceiling. 10. The floor of the room All you need to do is to place the first item of your list (1. a book, 2. a chair, 3. a cat, 4. a pen…) by the door and item No. 2 on the right corner until you’ve assigned all 10 items to 10 different locations of your room. You will be able to remember all items in your list in the correct sequence, in revere order, randomly, or given the item you will be able to tell the number. You can create 10 rooms to remember 100 items. Try it, it works. 

 Memory can be trained and improved. Learning new things can stimulate your brain so is creative thinking. Exercise your brain more often for better memory. 

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10 Ways to Love

Love

The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard but must be felt with the heart.

Helen Keller

There are many ways to show your love and affection. Here are some of them: 

 1. Show your gratitude: When someone has done you a favor, send a thank you letter to show your appreciation. Always be grateful to those who help you in one way or another. 

 2. Celebrate and congratulate: You send birthday wishes to someone on his birthday. You congratulate someone who has just graduated or another friend who has just given birth. You show your jubilation to the success and happiness of others. 

 3. To teach and to educate: When you give a fish to someone it is good for one meal but when you teach him to fish it's good for his whole life. Show others what you know to enrich their lives. 

 4. To forgive: To forgive is to forget. When you pardon someone, your heart will not fill with hatred, anger, or vengeance. You will find peace in your heart and it is good for your soul. 

 5. Courage: Have the courage to fight for what is right. Fight for justice and change the world for the better. 

 6. Humor: Humor allows you to look at the world from a different perspective. Sometimes a good joke is able to get someone out of the blue instantly. 

 7. Respect: Respect means patience, sympathy, and acceptance. You acknowledge the presence of other people in a compassionate way.

 8. Loyalty and trust: A friend in need is a friend indeed. Always be with your friends through thick and thin. Offer yourself to those in need of help. Parents looking after their handicapped children is also a kind of selfless giving and love. 

 9. Compassionate: Have the heart to share the feeling of others. Share the sorrow and sadness of others to demonstrate your sympathy to them. A kind word, a warm embrace, or just your presence can work wonder. 

 10. Listen: When someone talks to you, listen to understand and get the true meaning. You care when you listen with your undivided attention. When you love every day, you will feel happier, healthier and live longer

There is only happiness in life, to love, and to be loved.

 George Sand

Memory and Sleep

Sleep and Memory

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 According to Robert Stickgold, Ph. D., and Peter Wehrwein, during sleep, our brain is extraordinarily active. And much of the activity helps the brain to learn, to remember, and to make connections. Researchers have designed ways to test several different types of memory. In almost every case, “sleeping on it” after first learning the task improves performance. 

 Sleep deprivation experiments have shown that a tired brain has a difficult time capturing memories of all sorts. Interestingly, sleep deprivation is more likely to cause us to forget information associated with positive emotion than information linked to negative emotion. This could explain, at least in part, why sleep deprivation can trigger depression in some people. 

 Sleep also seems to be the time when the brain’s two memory systems – the hippocampus and the neocortex – “talk” with one another. If a memory is to be retained, it must be shipped from the hippocampus to a place where it will endure- the neocortex, the wrinkled outer layer of the brain where higher thinking takes place. The neocortex is a master at weaving the old with the new. It’s not just memory that is improved by sleep. Recent studies indicate that sleep not only helps store facts, it also helps make connections between them. Some sleep researchers believe that for every two hours we spend awake, the brain needs an hour of sleep to figure out all these experiences mean, and that sleep plays a crucial role in constructing the meaning our lives come to hold Memory tips (To retain large amounts of information for the long term and to remember names) In a question and answer session, 

Aaron Philip Nelson, Ph.D., says:” The single best way to retain a large amount of information over time is to rehearse it periodically. Revisiting the material induces the brain to consolidate the information, thereby strengthening the neural network in the brain that contains the information as a pattern of electrical activity. Associating new information with previously learned material is also helpful; it allows you to borrow the mnemonic power of the familiar information.” According to him, "The failure to ‘remember’ a name is usually a failure of attention, not a failure of memory. In order to remember something later on, you need to truly learn it in the first place.”

 The above is extracted from the May 4, 2009 issue of Newsweek 

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Steps to Blogging Success and Overnight Success

Success

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Overnight success

David Almond, the award-winning author of children's books, says,” All writers unless they’re very fortunate, know how difficult it is to get noticed, to become ‘discovered’. I became an ‘overnight success’ (I clapped when I read the review that said it) after almost twenty years.

Intention

According to Oxford Advanced Learner’s dictionary, intention means what you intend or plan to do; your aim. The word implies that you have a goal in mind and you have the interest or the desire to carry out or take action. In this case, you want to be an article writer/blogger.

Attention

When you have your intention the next thing is to focus on your attention. When you have decided to do something, you will have to pay undivided attention to it. You will put in the time and effort to write and promote articles regularly and consistently.

Perseverance

Be ready to go for the long term. According to Dorothea Brande, writer, “The key to success is to determine your goal and then act as if it were impossible to fail—and it shall be!” It means you have to work long enough, hard enough despite low traffic to your blog until you see success.

You have to do inbound marketing daily and you have to maintain your brand by writing and posting regularly and consistently according to your niche.

Giving

Serve the readers well by posting articles that can solve their problems. These have to be done regularly, consistently without sacrificing quality. The readers deserve the best from you.

Receiving

When you have done all that and continue to do every day you will have a taste of success but the level of your success is measured by:

• AdSense and other earnings
• Traffic Rank
• PageRank
• Readers’ comments
• Followers at your site
• Followers at Twitter
• Links to your site
• Subscribers to your feed

I am not successful yet but I do see progress in my blogging activities. My Traffic Rank when I first started was around 26,000,000 and now I have moved up to 1,000,000 spot (in 19 months). I am willing to go all the way. Are you psychologically prepared to go for the long haul like David Almond.? If your answer is positive then you will be an overnight success eventually.

12 Characteristics of Successful People

Though successful people follow certain common traits, they are successful in their own ways. Here are the things that we can learn from them so that we can be just as successful:


1. They have their goals and their dreams: They know what they want in life. Their vision for the future is very clear.

2. Self-confidence: They believe in themselves and they have the fullest confidence of achieving whatever they are doing. Their positive mindset tells them that they will make it.

3. Work hard: They harness their full power and energy working to realize their goals and aims in life. They go to work consistently day after day.

4. Perseverance: The setbacks along the way will not deter them to give up. To them, they are just learning experiences. They move on.

5. Focus: Their mind and energy are concentrating on their goals. They eat and sleep with their goals in their mind.

6. Serve the public: They do well for the public and they usually end up doing well for themselves. Be compassionate and see what you can do to help others

7. Synergy: They get help from people who are smarter; they know that they can accomplish more by listening to others.

8. Time conscious: They plan their work and they work their plan. They work efficiently and effectively within a time frame

9. Superior human relationship: They respect others by acknowledging their presence. They see things from other people’s points of view and they have effective listening skills.

10. Take action: They don’t dilly-dally. Once they have made up their mind they swing into action immediately. Procrastination is not a word in their dictionary.

11. Curious to know: They are alert and interested and they want to know more. They have a thirst for new knowledge. They understand that knowledge is power. They will learn and apply what they have learnt in creative ways.

12. Passionate: They enjoy working towards their goals in life. To them, it is not work. They just do it enthusiastically.


We only know about their overnight success but behind their success perhaps they have worked hard continuously for 5 to 20 years.